THE KEY TO HAPPINESS.

How it works and why it works for everyone.

There is a key to happiness. It doesn’t even matter what you believe about God, gods, no gods, or the great invisible nothingness.

If you read my posts you now that I am a flaming evangelical Christian, so you know that the key comes from the Bible, but you don’t even have to believe the Bible to accept this wisdom. I only included it because the Author should receive the credit.

The key comes from Philippians 4:8

(NIV)  Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable–if anything is excellent or praiseworthy–think about such things.

How it works.

The key to understanding how it works is

“YOU FIND WHAT YOU ARE LOOKING FOR”

If you are looking for whatever is lovely you will be concentrating on what is lovely, not on what is ugly, and you will find it. The same can be said for noble, pure, admirable, excellent, and praiseworthy.

Looking for the opposite is also true if you are looking for what is ugly you will look right past something that is lovely, pure, admirable, excellent, and praiseworthy and you will not find any of these qualities: you will only find ugly.

The verse says, “think about such things.” If that is what you are thinking about you will also be looking for it. There is an old saying “You are what you eat”. Well, I am not buying that, but you really are what you think. If you spend your time thinking about good you will be good and if you spend your time thinking about bad you will be bad.

Why it works for everyone.

There are some in this world who only see ugly. Part of the reason is that they only look for it, but even if one is blind to beauty and they can only see what is ugly, if they would spend all of their time looking for beauty they would have no time left to look for ugly. Though they would not be as happy as someone who did not share their natural pessimism they would be as happy as they could be. (The old saying that some are only happy when they are miserable is just that; a saying with no merit)

If that sounds too simple for you, stop trying to complicate it. The really wonderful things in life, the things that bring great enjoyment, are simple.

4 Responses to THE KEY TO HAPPINESS.

  1. Tony says:

    “if they would spend all of their time looking for beauty they would have no time left to look for ugly.”

    But if no-one saw the ugly, who would tidy up the mess?

    We surely can’t leave it up to god because he’s abandoned us until the point of our death. Many people who look and see only the “ugly” things are moved to great charity. Can you imagine how crappy the world would be if no-one looked for the “ugly” and tried to improve it?

  2. astudent says:

    Tony,
    My first thought was, why you think that God has abandoned us, but it is probably because He doesn’t do what we ask in our prayers. If He granted all of our requests then we would be God and He would be our servant.
    I don’t know how old you are, but with age comes the realization that you don’t have to look for the “ugly”, it will look for you.
    You don’t have to spend any time to find the “ugly” and if you “follow the money” you will find it is usually man that caused it and God that gets blamed for it.
    I don’t have to imagine how crappy the world would be, because it is crappy and overall it really isn’t improving, though some situations, for some people, are improving it is only temporary.
    Have you ever wondered where the idea of charity came from? If we evolved from animals how could an animal survive and be charitable? That attribute would have been eliminated along time before man “just happened”.

  3. Tony says:

    ABANDONMENT/ATONEMENT:

    astudent: “My first thought was, why you think that God has abandoned us, but it is probably because He doesn’t do what we ask in our prayers.”

    REPLY:

    I’ve never asked god for anything. Ever. My point is there is a lot of suffering in this world, and a lot of deaths attributable to it. And if those people are not christians then they burn in hell when they die. That’s a bit harsh don’t you think?

    UGLY:

    astudent: “I don’t know how old you are, but with age comes the realization that you don’t have to look for the “ugly”, it will look for you.”

    REPLY:

    I’m old enough to know that that doesn’t really mean anything…

    CHARITY STARTS AT HOME:

    astudent: “Have you ever wondered where the idea of charity came from? If we evolved from animals how could an animal survive and be charitable? That attribute would have been eliminated along time before man “just happened”.”

    REPLY:

    The idea of charity most likely came from the time that man realised that survival of the fittest was fine, but if you really wanted to survive it was easier in a group.

    That was the birth of society. That was the birth of charity. It’s essentially driven by fear, as are all our responses to all stimulae. (That’s a fact and I can prove it).

    I.E. “If I help you then maybe, when I’m in trouble, you’ll help me.” – that’s the basis of a society and it’s purely for selfish suvival. It’s the intelligent choice.

    It occurs in the animal kingdom too. Wolves have close societies, and will tend and ‘carry the burden’ of injured animals in their pack – for the greater good of the pack. Which means each wolf is really only looking out for itself, by helping the others.

    It’s very simple really. Humans are selfish and mean and survivalistic – if being nice to others helps us survive we’ll do that. If you want to survive in a harsh environment like our ancestors did you can’t do it alone; you need help. That same is true of some environments/societies today – but not ours.

    Charity and kindness have decreased in recent years because we aren’t reliant upon others for mutual suvival anymore. Who cares if my neighbour won’t help me pick my crop… I can just buy it at the 7-11 instead! And on that basis, why should I help him? You can insert whatever you like where I said ‘pick crop’, it still works the same way. So, you see, you’re wrong. It’s not be eliminated it’s been created and encouraged and nurtured – up until now – for our very suvival.

    That’s fact right there buddy. Fact.

    1: Charity – a foundation created to promote the public good.

    2: In Christian theology charity, or love (agapē), means an unlimited loving-kindness toward all others.

    The first is driven by selfish needs, such as making yourself feel better about having more than someone else. Or looking good to others. Or just making yourself feel good – I’ve met people who’s drug seems to be charity work.

    The second does not exist. Humans are incapable because deep down we are too damn selfish.

  4. astudent says:

    Tony,
    ABANDONMENT/ATONEMENT:

    Suppose that you are in a building and you face two doors that lead out of the building. One door is clearly marked “This Door leads to death and eternal destruction” and the other door is clearly marked “This Door leads to life and eternal happiness” then how could you say that one is to harsh with out realizing that the other is to wonderful? What difference does it make if you think one is too harsh? You didn’t make the building, doors, or choices so you are not in a position to judge the harshness of the wrong way out. Just don’t take that door!!!

    UGLY:

    Like most kids you do not speak from experience. Has no one broke in and stole something from you? No one stuck a gun in your face? Your best friend hasn’t lied to you and stole from you? Are you married? Has your wife cheated on you, or hid the fact she spent the money on herself that was supposed to be spent on your bills? If these things haven’t happened to you yet then consider what politicians have done to you and all of us buy giving all of our manufacturing jobs to any foreign country that would care to take them and destroying our economy. (If it hasn’t effected you yet, just wait, it will)

    Don’t get the idea that I think I have been picked on, because I have caused as many problems for others as they have caused for me.

    CHARITY STARTS AT HOME:

    To join a group in order to increase ones odds at survival is an act of selfishness, not an act of charity. If one joins a group to protect that group, at a cost to the individual, then that would be an act of charity, but if the individual’s motive for joining is to benefit themselves it is not charity.

    You seem to have made your own definition for the word charity. Charity is not a foundation it is a word that means “generous actions or donations to aid the poor, ill, or helpless”. It is an act of unselfishness not some act to protect ones self.

    You are correct when you say that we are too damn selfish to have unlimited charity toward others. However isn’t it obvious that the attribute of charity comes from God? He doesn’t need anything we might try to give Him. He didn’t have to make a universe, or give anyone or anything life, but He did. Everything that we have is charity from God. Then there is His son that gave everything that he had, even his life that we might live.
    We are not capable of unlimited charity like God, or Jesus, but still, because of the examples set by God and His son, we should give to others even though we can not be perfect in charity.

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