How it works and why it works for everyone.
There is a key to happiness. It doesn’t even matter what you believe about God, gods, no gods, or the great invisible nothingness.
If you read my posts you now that I am a flaming evangelical Christian, so you know that the key comes from the Bible, but you don’t even have to believe the Bible to accept this wisdom. I only included it because the Author should receive the credit.
The key comes from Philippians 4:8
(NIV) Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable–if anything is excellent or praiseworthy–think about such things.
How it works.
The key to understanding how it works is
“YOU FIND WHAT YOU ARE LOOKING FOR”
If you are looking for whatever is lovely you will be concentrating on what is lovely, not on what is ugly, and you will find it. The same can be said for noble, pure, admirable, excellent, and praiseworthy.
Looking for the opposite is also true if you are looking for what is ugly you will look right past something that is lovely, pure, admirable, excellent, and praiseworthy and you will not find any of these qualities: you will only find ugly.
The verse says, “think about such things.” If that is what you are thinking about you will also be looking for it. There is an old saying “You are what you eat”. Well, I am not buying that, but you really are what you think. If you spend your time thinking about good you will be good and if you spend your time thinking about bad you will be bad.
Why it works for everyone.
There are some in this world who only see ugly. Part of the reason is that they only look for it, but even if one is blind to beauty and they can only see what is ugly, if they would spend all of their time looking for beauty they would have no time left to look for ugly. Though they would not be as happy as someone who did not share their natural pessimism they would be as happy as they could be. (The old saying that some are only happy when they are miserable is just that; a saying with no merit)
If that sounds too simple for you, stop trying to complicate it. The really wonderful things in life, the things that bring great enjoyment, are simple.